Preparing an older sibling for a new baby

As our due date is getting ever closer, we have really started to focus on preparing Bear to be a big brother. We fell pregnant with our little peanut when Bear was just nine months old and so even though we have been talking to him about the pregnancy and the baby from the start, it is only recently that Bear has started to become more aware that Mummy and Daddy are having another baby.

Mummy, Daddy and Oliver.

 

From the start we included Bear in the pregnancy and we took him to the scans and midwife appointments with us as much as possible. At our 20 week scan, the sonographer was absolutely brilliant and described what was going on during the scan so that Bear was involved.

 

At around 26 weeks, we found a fabulous book called ‘ I’m a new big brother’ which is part of the Pirate Pete series. We started reading it to Bear straight away as it covers the whole process of becoming a big brother and highlights how important the job of being a big brother is. I leave this book out every day so that Bear can choose to either flick through himself and look at the pictures, or bring it to me for me to read to him.

 

Pirate Pete - I'm a New Big Brother
Pirate Pete – I’m a New Big Brother

 

The book explains how Pirate Pete’s Mummy is growing a baby in her tummy and how when she goes to hospital with Pirate Pete’s Daddy, Pirate Pete stays with his Grandad for a little while. When Pirate Pete’s Mummy and Daddy come home from the hospital they have a new baby and the book then goes on to show all of the things Pirate Pete can help with and all of the things he can show the new baby. It also covers how even though there is a new baby, Pirate Pete still has special time with his Mummy and Daddy. There is even a sound button that plays a baby giggling, which Bear loves pushing.

 

We have also included Bear where possible in the construction of the nursery and he even helped build the cot up in Peanut’s bedroom. With all of the decorating going on in Peanut’s room, we decided to give Bear’s room a bit of a makeover too. He found moving to a toddler bed so a new baby could have his cot very exciting.

 

Daddy and Oliver building the new pram.
Daddy and Bear building the new pram.

 

As we will have two children under two, we have purchased a new pram. We opted for the icandy Peach Blossom, which I will be posting about when Peanut arrives and we can actually take it out for a spin. To make sure Bear knows that he is as much a part of this new adventure as myself and Mr. C, we got Bear to help us construct the pram. He was a fabulous little helper and it made the whole ‘pram building process’ much less of a chore and more of a fun family activity.

 

As well as all of these things, we have decided to create ‘gift bags’ as part of the introduction when Peanut arrives. A lot of people advised getting a gift from the baby to Bear, but I didn’t want to start the journey into parenting two children by each of them getting a present when something happens, such as birthdays, Christenings etc. So we decided that both of them will get a gift bag from the other and that way they start off on level ground and both still get spoilt.

 

Oliver's 'I'm a new big brother' gift bag.
Bear’s ‘I’m a new big brother’ gift bag.

 

We’ve tried to make the bags as similar as possible, while still being personalised. We felt that they should both have one big gift each, which was something nice just for them and then smaller gifts that focused on being siblings.

 

In Bear’s bag we have included:

  • Russell the dream sheepdog
  • A personalised siblings photo frame
  • A big brother jumper
  • A letter from Peanut
  • A letter from Mummy and Daddy

 

In Peanut’s bag we have included:

  • Ewan the dream sheep
  • A personalised siblings photo frame
  • A siblings babygrow
  • A letter from Bear
  • A letter from Mummy and Daddy

 

We will be putting Bear and Peanut’s first photo together in the photo frame and placing the letters in the back of it after they have been read, so that they can be kept forever.

 

Making sure we prepare Bear as best we can to be a big brother is so important to us. He has always had all of our attention and with limited support around us, he has rarely been away from either myself or Mr. C and so we wanted to make sure he knows that even though we are having another baby, we will always love him just as much and that by having another baby, we are giving him a best friend, a partner in crime and overall someone else that will love him just as much as we do.

 

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Preparing an older sibling for a new baby

 

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12 thoughts on “Preparing an older sibling for a new baby

  1. Ah this is lovely. ..I’ve just started thinking about how I’m going to prepare my little boy, he will be 21 months when the baby arrives (in 8 weeks ish!) so we are in a very similar situation to you and have done a few similar things. I’ve just ordered the book you recommend, we’ve been sharing There’s a house inside my Mummy so far and think this will be a nice addition now he’s a little bit bigger. Good luck with everything and I look forward to following your journey x

  2. We only have one child so haven’t had to do this but I think there are so many lovely ways of preparing them and helping to smooth the way for a bond between the two. There seem to be so many lovely books out there to help with that.

  3. Some great advice here and we did something very similar. Erin came to all my midwife appointments and saw the baby on screen- the midwife even let her help with the Doppler which she loved. We had the ‘house inside my mummy’ book which was fab. Erin also got a gift from the baby and I made sure that when she came to visit me in hospital for the first time that I made her feel extra special and tried not to focus on Neve too much – shifting the attention to the new big sister status rather than just talking about Neve. This worked really well!

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